The Intersection of Psychology, Sexuality and Paleontology: A roadmap to my work

Here are all the links and topics/posts organized by category and structure. How and why sexuality, as the source of life, connects all human experiences.

Welcome!

In this post, I hope to provide a clear roadmap for my work up to this point, and I will continue to update with new information, posts, and insights.
Now that I've collected over 35 pieces of writing (yuhu!), I can finally connect them so that my work makes sense whether it's read, zoomed out, or zoomed in.

I'd like to explain where to begin reading, how I plan to connect topics, and why I write about sexuality, particularly for new readers.

From my perspective, understanding sexuality is like exploring the "far side of the moon," which we refer to as the dark side of the moon.

The moon is not dark; it receives light from the sun; it is just her fixed position on the earth that makes us say it is dark.

Sexuality is a place we know exists but can't really see or understand.
We’re aware of it; we catch glimpses, and we crave to understand it.

Yet, we often keep it hidden, only peeking at how others explore it, hoping to gather hints without actively pursuing our own understanding.

We expect to be sexual beings without truly knowing ourselves or each other.

Sexuality is a vast and powerful topic, but at the same time, it is like the secret to happiness and satisfaction, which is not to add but to learn to subtract. 

Because I see sexuality as integral to our whole being, I write about it.
We as a whole want to feel effervescent, to be awakened, and to come alive.

We all want to belong, give, and take pleasure; we all need a deep sense of relaxation and feel at ease surrendering to the universe.

Sexuality is not a part of us; it is us, our whole being. 

When we look at our evolution, it becomes clear that sexuality is more than just a biological feature. Unlike many animals, we don’t die after mating or once our reproductive cycles are over. We thrive beyond our biological clocks.

We can feel pleasure whenever we want, and we have the unique ability to explore and understand our complexities. Our ability to control our environment is a gift, allowing us to age and experience life in ways that nature has made possible for us.

Sexuality isn’t just about reproduction; it’s about experiencing life to its fullest.
It’s about understanding and embracing our desires, our bodies, and our connections with others.

Let's not keep it in the "dark," but keep it intimate, mysterious, and alive.
Understand it, and celebrate it as a vital part of your human experience.

No shame for aging, no shame for how you look like, no shame for not knowing everything. No shame at all.

By letting go of unnecessary complexities and fears, we find a purer, more fulfilling experience of sexuality and life itself.

I write about sexuality from the far side of the moon; the bright side of the moon is already in the light, functional, and rational. We are there, at work, at home, paying our bills. 

I write about all the aspects of our identities, our emotions, our traumas with the hope that the moment we unlearn and relearn, we embrace simplicity, our nature, focus on what truly matters, and allow ourselves to thrive in both body and spirit.

Sexuality is not complicated; we are.

To me, writing about sexuality means writing about everything that makes us human.

At first glance, it may appear that discussing sexuality includes everything commonly associated with the act of sex.

This is not my goal at all.

I want to write what I would have liked to read as I matured, grew, and discovered myself.

I would have liked to have been told by someone I trusted that sexuality is so complex, that the way I feel, the way I was raised, my relationship with money, how healthy relationships form, how to understand my emotions, how to take space, and the way I make love are all linked, and that each of those aspects says something about me.

I would have liked someone to tell me that not only what happened to me was significant, but also what I didn't experience—the missing love, celebration, and care—so that I wouldn't have to believe that there was something wrong with me.

Everything I felt was human, justified, legitimate, and true.

I write for myself to validate and honor my younger self by answering all of the unanswered questions in an in-depth holistic manner, on how we can integrate our sexuality, learn and relearn, and be creative.

I am eager to talk about all aspects of our sexual identities, the impact of social, cultural, and economic factors on our behavior, cognitive aspects, biological traits, and so much more.

As I already said, Sexuality has little to do with sexual expression; it is merely the tip of the iceberg. Sexuality incorporates everything that lies beneath the surface, it is the foundation, the underlying knowledge, where we already have all wisdom and can find every panacea.

Furthermore, sexuality, metaphorically speaking, extends beyond the surface of the iceberg, incorporating all the space above the tip, the limitless cosmos, and our connection to the universe-the source of all life and creations.

Thus, if we use our imagination, we can understand the interconnectedness of everything, the reduction of our sexuality to mere sex, and the ways in which we act, perform, and explore our sexuality is just one aspect—one practical aspect—that is important, but it is not the only one; it is not the ultimate goal; it is a nuance of our human spectrum.

If we truly examine ourselves, we can see our predetermined existence and the social/cultural economical limitations of our free will, identities and self-concepts, which we may refuse to acknowledge or accept.

At the same time, we are more than we realize; our potential far exceeds what we allow ourselves to believe.

By being receptive to new information and challenging our identities, behaviors, lives, distorted perceptions of the world, and how we were conditioned, we can start exploring our sexuality.

It's difficult work, but it's rewarding and liberating to understand why you are the way you are.

I hope we can be kind and compassionate to ourselves as we process new information, reflect on past versions of ourselves, projected images, and unrealized dreams, and reclaim our true selves and the inherent power we all have, both consciously and unconsciously.

We are valued by those who see us clearly where we are unable to see ourselves, and we are capable of much more than what others believe about us through their biases, limitations, and lenses.

There are only personal truths that each of us claims, shares, and finds meaningful. There are no absolute truths about who we are, how we are perceived by others, or how we perceive others.

The source of life: Sexuality

The idea that sexuality is the source of life has several biological and psychological interpretations. Here's an in-depth review from both perspectives:

From a biological perspective, sexuality is linked to reproduction, which is fundamental to species survival.
Sexual reproduction combines genetic material from two parents, resulting in genetic diversity, which is necessary for species survival and evolution.
Life Cycle: The act of reproduction ensures that life continues across generations, so sexuality is a vital part of life's survival.

From a psychological perspective, sexuality impacts behavior, identity, and relationships.
Human Development: Sexuality influences identity formation, a sense of self and social relationships.
Relationships: Sexuality has a significant impact on emotional bonds, intimacy, and connection with others.
Psychological Drive: Life/Death instincts. Sigmund Freud's theory of libido holds that sexual energy is a primary driver of human behavior, contributing to creativity, motivation, and life satisfaction.

Philosophical and cultural perspectives highlight the importance of sexuality in human existence.
Many cultures have creation myths that attribute the beginning of life to sexual acts or unions between deities.
Symbolism/Archetypes: In literature, art, and religion, sexuality frequently represents fertility, creativity, and vitality.

Sexuality includes:

Biological Aspects: Reproduction, Physical Pleasure, Hormonal Influences.
Psychological Aspects: Identity, Emotional Connection, Mental Health.
Cultural Aspects: Norms and Values, Societal standards and taboos, Rituals and Traditions, Media Representation.
Social Aspects: Relationships, Power Dynamics, Community.
Philosophical and Existential Aspects: Meaning and Purpose, Spirituality.

Here, you'll find links to all of my posts, which I've categorized and organized to make it easier for you to find them and return whenever I update.

It's similar to a summary for an ever-evolving digital book.

Each title will open to a new page where you can read the content that piqued your interest.

1. Foundations of Psychology and Sexuality:

a. Understanding Sexuality Step by Step: Learning and Unlearning Processes
A summary of the processes involved in learning or unlearning one's sexual identity.

b. How Our Brain Works: The Consequences of Living in a Left-Hemisphere Society. Urbanization and Our Minds. Down to Earth.
Nature has a remarkable ability to bring us peace, which can be measured psychologically. It's time to eat your strawberries and celebrate LIFE.

c. Understanding The Ego's States, Roles, and Stages in Psychology. Self-Ego Spiritual Axis: Transcending to a Higher Self.
The necessity of the psychological Ego and the dissolution of the spiritual Ego.

d. Understanding Complexes: How past experiences create unique constellations of emotions, bodily sensations, and the intensity of our current reactions. A psychoanalytic exploration of universal complexes and their manifestations in our adult life. Transformation as a fundamental power of the human experience.

2. Dynamics of Relationships and Attachment:

a. How Relationships Are Formed. Our Fixation with Romantic Relationships, Finding the "ONE" Explained. Marriage Archetype. Different Relationships=Abundance of Resources and Inclusion.
What is the difference between Mature, Fusional, Teenager love. Learn how to identify resources, abundance, and value in relationships around you.

b. Polyamory, Monogamy, and Other Types of Bonds Explained.
Part I: How Secure and Insecure Attachment Styles Manifest in Adult Romantic and Non-Romantic Relationships.
Why we pair bond. An overview of attachment style theory. Our biology, the neurochemistry, and hormone systems

c. Polyamory, Monogamy, and Other Types of Bonds Explained.
Part II: The Interconnection Between Trauma and Attachment. The path of self-individuation. Denial as a Defense Mechanism, Neuroplasticity, and Pattern Recognition initiate the healing process.
To some extent, we have positive experiences as adults, yet because the gravitational field of the positive experiences is so small, these new positive memories either fade away or become unreachable

d. Polyamory, Monogamy, and Other Types of Bonds Explained.
Part III: Self-verification theory. How Self-Esteem form. Boundaries types: Healthy, Porous, and Rigid. Compatibility vs Incompatibility. Symbiosis and Autonomy.
The Impact of Self-Perception on Relationship Quality. We construct "self-trap" images, beliefs, and fixed ideas about ourselves, then expect others to mirror back to us.

e. Polyamory, Monogamy, and Other Types of Bonds Explained.
Part IV: Why do we stay in dysfunctional relationships—the internal blueprint cycle of Clinging to the Good or Fixating on the Bad.
Understand the Difference Between Hope and Reality. Object Relations Theory: The splitting of the Ego, the internalized “bad”/“good” objects in our mind.

f. Polyamory, Monogamy and other types of bonds explained.
Part V: Infidelity and Betrayal. The shadow of the Third. Envy and Jealousy.
"If one does not know to which port one is sailing, no wind is favorable."-Seneca

3. In-Depth Exploration of Sexuality:

a. Anger, Aggression, and Vulnerability in Sexual Intimacy. Differences in How Men and Women Experience Anger and Vulnerability.
Emotional aspects of sexual intimacy and gender differences, how secondary behaviors like anger and rage can be related to our feelings of vulnerability..

b. Sexual Desire: Frequency and Intensity
Addressing the mismatch of sexual desire in relationships

c. The Connection Between Orgasms, Death, and the Ego. Eroticism/Mother Death Archetype. "La Petite Mort". Understanding Our Existential Reality is Essential for Living Life to the Fullest.
Connections between orgasm, mortality, and the ego. "Death Education" is at the same time "Life Education."

d. The Story of the Womb: Cosmic Origins. The womb- An interdimensional passageway, where our deepest desire for connection and security begins.

4. Archetypal and Psychological Insights:

a. The Goddess Archetype Aphrodite. Sensuality, Seduction, Aesthetics, and Creation.
The art of balancing female goddess archetypes in a society obsessed with beauty and youth. Archetype of Aphrodite (Venus)-shadow and light.

b. Madonna-Whore Complex Simplified.
The effects of internalized misogyny on men and women.

c. Eros and Anteros: A Psychological Tale of Mutual Connection and the Art of Love
Eros and Anteros/Desire and Reciprocal Love are the two sides of love.

d. Hands in Myths and Life: The Silent Storytellers. The Dual Nature of Human Touch.

e. Without flowers, there would be no us. Calendula: A short tale of Blossoming Legacy
Sun-Kissed and Star-Loved: Memories of a Golden Child- the first day of the month-"Kalendae".

f. There are Love Stories, Life Stories, and the Story of All Things: Carbon— cosmic pattern maker and master storyteller.
This is a bedtime story about how we became (immortals).

g. Part I: Exploring the Subconscious Through Active imagination-Alchemy, Tarot, Astrology and Dreams— turning knowledge-'lead' into art-'gold'.
The dual way we Shape our World: Logic and Intuition working together. Individuation to Wholeness. The "alchemist" archetype.

h. Witch Archetype- the feared parts of the psyche.
The dark side of history: Great Mother/Mother archetype, Witch Hunts, and the Legacy of the outsider woman.

i. Water Archetype.
Water—the bridge between worlds, flowing from the icy void beyond our Solar System to nourish the womb of life.

j. Sand.
The hourglass reminds us that time does not pass—it falls-it’s returning.

5. Money, Society, and Sexuality:

a. The Money Complex: Understanding Your Relationship With Money. Greed, Idealized Poverty, and Healthy Wealth. Psychological Roots of Money.
Money symbolism throughout history. How do family dynamics and emotions around money impact and predict future financial patterns.

b. Madonna-Whore Complex Simplified.
The effects of internalized misogyny on men and women.

6. Emotional Intelligence and Everyday Wisdom:

a. Everyday Wisdom: Using Emotions for a More Conscious Life. Emotional Intelligence Made Easy.
If we can't understand ourselves, how do we understand others?

b. Doubt: Its evolutionary role in shaping humanity.
Doubt, an evolutionary mind-and-heart tool, has led us to this moment in history, but our ability to hold opposing viewpoints and discern will shape the next chapter of our human story.

c. ART – the vital expression of the self.
It is through art that we hold onto our memories, remain present, and build our future. Art stands as a witness to life’s truths—a bridge between us, our internal and external world.

d. What If the questions are the real answer?
"The greatest of all insights is to realize that the quest itself, not the answer, is the greatest part of knowledge." – Ralph Waldo Emerson

7. In depth Psychological Topics:

a. Motherhood, Sexuality, and Identity: Honoring Matrescence and Deciding Not to Have Children. Dealing with the Guilt, Shame, and Regret of Having Children. Men's Role in Supporting Women's Choices.
An Interview with Matrescence Guide and Educator Simona Mustata

b. Trauma. Sexuality as Self-Reflection. Body/Mind Dissociation State.
It is important to realize that trauma is defined by how events affect you, not just by what happens to you. 

c. A Historical Perspective of Sexuality
Exploring sexuality across different epochs, from Ancient Greece until today, provides insight into how societal attitudes and norms have evolved over time.

d. The First Touch: Jungian Symbols, Parental Figures, and the Search for Truth in Shaping Our Sexuality
Analysis of the Symbolic Significance of Skin and Sensation

e. Rejection’s Mirror: to choose and not be chosen. Self-rejection in a culture of sameness. When belonging costs too much. What isn’t meant for us creates space for what is—sometimes, good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

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