Some fascinating topics here. You do a professional job of tackling the subject(s) and elaborating. There are so many aspects to intimacy. I think sometimes we are reductive when discussing sex and reductive when we talk about the gender relationships with it. Both men and women have their complexities and are impacted by the perpetuation of social norms, practices, and conditioning.
Oh, Roman, thank you so much for reading! I also think that we are reductive in general, but when we explore further into real intimacy, we discover an extensive number of cultural, biological, and social layers that remain unresolved as we form new bonds. It can be challenging to access our emotions as adults.
I recognize that a select few are fortunate enough to receive guidance during childhood (or perhaps I'm mistaken) on overcoming life's obstacles, coping with grief, understanding and recognizing emotions, or form healthy relationships; the majority of us discover our true selves during our adulthood. I greatly appreciate your support!
I appreciate your comment; it makes me smile since I like learning something new and surprising every day. I'm glad you found it (I hope) captivating. :)
Love the comments about how incompatibility is not some trivial thing to be solved. To find someone you're compatible with is not just to find agreeable sex - it's to find someone whose wants and needs actually match up with what we can give them. Including outside the bedroom. Even mostly outside the bedroom.
Love this piece. Will be returning this evening to explore the other resourced you listed.
Yes, you've said it exactly! We live largely outside the bedroom, ideally in a community that provides us with safety and meets our other basic needs, so that our partner is only an aspect of our lives, not the center of everything, our only resource for other needs and desires. Finding compatibility is important for your overall life and your neurological system; it is not dependent on attractiveness, which we don't notice in many situations. Right now, I'm writing an article on this subject (how to recognize compatibility), which will be published here this weekend. Hope you will stick around and find it interesting! :D
I kindly Thank You for sharing!
Some fascinating topics here. You do a professional job of tackling the subject(s) and elaborating. There are so many aspects to intimacy. I think sometimes we are reductive when discussing sex and reductive when we talk about the gender relationships with it. Both men and women have their complexities and are impacted by the perpetuation of social norms, practices, and conditioning.
Oh, Roman, thank you so much for reading! I also think that we are reductive in general, but when we explore further into real intimacy, we discover an extensive number of cultural, biological, and social layers that remain unresolved as we form new bonds. It can be challenging to access our emotions as adults.
I recognize that a select few are fortunate enough to receive guidance during childhood (or perhaps I'm mistaken) on overcoming life's obstacles, coping with grief, understanding and recognizing emotions, or form healthy relationships; the majority of us discover our true selves during our adulthood. I greatly appreciate your support!
Wisdom ☺️
Thank you! I appreciate your comment! :)
This is definitely something I didn't expect to learn about today but glad I did nonetheless.
I appreciate your comment; it makes me smile since I like learning something new and surprising every day. I'm glad you found it (I hope) captivating. :)
Love the comments about how incompatibility is not some trivial thing to be solved. To find someone you're compatible with is not just to find agreeable sex - it's to find someone whose wants and needs actually match up with what we can give them. Including outside the bedroom. Even mostly outside the bedroom.
Love this piece. Will be returning this evening to explore the other resourced you listed.
Thank you for your warm thoughts, Justin!
Yes, you've said it exactly! We live largely outside the bedroom, ideally in a community that provides us with safety and meets our other basic needs, so that our partner is only an aspect of our lives, not the center of everything, our only resource for other needs and desires. Finding compatibility is important for your overall life and your neurological system; it is not dependent on attractiveness, which we don't notice in many situations. Right now, I'm writing an article on this subject (how to recognize compatibility), which will be published here this weekend. Hope you will stick around and find it interesting! :D
Yes.
Wow, you're like a dream shrink. I need a sex shrink right now, because I was a shrink myself until now.